A Slice of Humble Cake – Stream of Consciousness Sunday

I have really enjoyed participating in “Stream of Consciousness Sunday”, hosted by Fadra of AllThingsFadra.com. The idea is to type for 5 minutes, a brain dump of sorts, and then to publish without editing the writing at all.

#SOCsunday

Today was my youngest niece Abby’s 1st birthday party. My brother and his wife held the party at Chick-fil-A and it was a huge shindig… of course no family member on either side wants to be left out of this milestone event. It was a race for us to get there, as I had to have David take us to my friend M’s house to borrow her van, so that he could get to work and we could go on to the party. The trials of having only one car… and of course we found out an hour later that he was given the day off, so we both ended up at the party anyway.

We made it in time to see the birthday girl enjoy a little ice cream and cake. My former friends were there, as expected. I wrote about them in this post, but in short, I haven’t seen these two in 3 years. It wasn’t bad…. about 10 minutes of steadfastly ignoring each other before we finally nodded and acknowledged each others’ presence. By the time we left, I didn’t care at all that they were there and felt silly for having held onto hard feelings for so long. I don’t think we’ll ever be “friends” again, but at least we can be at the same event without the bitterness getting in the way. Better late than never, I suppose.

Happy Birthday Abby!
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I'm Heather, a married mama of two teen girls, a stillborn baby girl (7/1/12), and a sweet and wild preschool girl (4/2/14). I've been blogging at The Destiny Manifest since 2001. I like to write about appreciating all of the beautiful little things that surround us, particularly in the face of grief, infant loss and mental health issues. Every day is an adventure!

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  • @mommyhoodnxtrt

    Aww. I love first birthday parties. I am off to read your post about your former friends now.

    p.s. I’m here from SOC Sundays.

  • Definitely better to not be enemies! Thanks for visiting ~ I’ll check out your blog as well! 🙂

  • Hi Susan, thanks for stopping by! I’ll check out your blog as well. 🙂

  • Thanks Chris! She is a sweetie, for sure! Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

  • Thank you Fadra! I really do feel pride at having “gotten over it”. Now I
    won’t worry so much when they are at parties in the future, which they
    probably will be, as they are a pretty prominent part of my brother’s
    life.

    Thank you so much for hosting SOC Sunday! I look forward to it all week!

  • Thanks Stasha! It was easier than I thought, getting over my past with
    this couple, but I don’t think I could have done it a year ago, or even 6
    months ago. It was something I had to come to… to grow into. I’m glad
    I did… I didn’t want to exclude myself from that party for any
    reason!

  • In the past, it’s been my practice to avoid people whom I’ve had quarrel
    with, so being a big girl and facing them intentionally, not to fight
    but to get along, is a new one for me. I feel like I’ve become older and
    wiser just by realizing that it takes too much energy to be angry for
    years at someone, even if the anger was well-deserved initially. I
    appreciate your comments ~ thank you for reading! I’m off to read your
    SOC post too! 🙂

  • In the past, it’s been my practice to avoid people whom I’ve had quarrel with, so being a big girl and facing them intentionally, not to fight but to get along, is a new one for me. I feel like I’ve become older and wiser just by realizing that it takes too much energy to be angry for years at someone, even if the anger was well-deserved initially. I
    appreciate your comments ~ thank you for reading! I’m off to read your SOC post too! 🙂     

  • I’ve been in that place with my brother (Abby’s dad from this post)
    too… in large part because of the above mentioned former friends. I
    avoided going to my mother’s for a long time because I didn’t want to
    feel slighted/ignored/insulted by him. We’re finally at a place where,
    while we’re not close pals or anything, we get along and can usually
    talk about this or that without hurt feelings. I hope that you &
    your brother can get to that place one day too. Thank you for stopping
    by ~ off to read your blog!

  • Definitely better to not be enemies! Thanks for visiting ~ I’ll check out your blog as well! 🙂

  • Thank you Jennifer! 🙂