Invaluable Lessons

It’s been a busy week. I know I’ve said this a lot this week, and I do apologize for that. Unfortunately, it’s kind of the overriding focus in my life at the moment… busy, busy, hurry, hurry, rush, rush, rush!

I have learned a few invaluable lessons this week…

1. I really love my blog. I adore tinkering with the layouts and the sidebars, editing and resizing the images for blog posts, planning out what I’ll post about this week or next, as well as reading and commenting on others’ blogs. I’ve taken long breaks from blogging before, during one life crisis or another, but I’ve been consistent for long enough now that it feels like second nature to blog. I miss it when I can’t squeeze in time to write, and I am eager for the peaceful lull after the big move, when I can sit and write without feeling rushed or guilty because I should be sorting through my stash of craft supplies, books or yarn.

2. I am easily annoyed, but I am much better at holding my tongue and waiting for the storm to pass than I used to be. I try harder now to see the other person’s point of view, and even when I analyze it from both sides and still come away thinking “that person is crazy, and not in a good way”, I don’t feel the need to share my opinion with that person. Life is too short for all that drama that so many people feed off of.

3. It’s hard to say goodbye to the place where I have spent almost all of my life, but I feel strongly that there are better things waiting for my family around the bend. I have to keep that in mind whenever the urge to continue being complacent about our situation strikes. This move isn’t easy, physically or emotionally, but it will be worth the risk.

4. I really love my husband. I already knew that, have always known it, but he finds new ways of reminding me all the time. Whether it’s with a quiet slow dance in the backyard after a long and trying day, a bag of Reese’s Pieces that he knows I love but won’t buy for myself, or reminding me that it doesn’t matter what anyone says, because he loves me no matter what… this man just means the world to me.

5. “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.” ~ Henry Ford

I love this quote, and it really hit home for me this week. The negatives will only bog us down, and we are so excited about this move that we have to keep reminding ourselves (and each other) that we can’t get caught up in other people’s expectations of us. We want to be successful, we are willing to put in the work to be successful, so we will be.

6. My daughters really want their own rooms. This might just be the highlight of the entire move for them. They absolutely cannot wait to have their own rooms, and they mention this several times every day. I can’t wait to give them this… I know how long they’ve been longing for private space.

7. I am looking forward to getting a job. I’ve been a stay-at-home mama since 2001. I was a work-at-home mama from 2002 to 2006, and I loved the satisfaction that I got from creating and designing  I bring in some money to our family now, but it’s nickels and dimes compared to a real paycheck (or even that fat paypal account I used to own).

I’m excited about finding a job, working hard and bringing in half of our family’s income. We need and want to climb out of the debt sinkhole we are in. I am definitely jazzed about being able to help us to do that.

8. I have seriously awesome friends. I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today without these folks, and I can never repay them for the happiness they have brought me, just by sticking by my side. I told my daughter today that it doesn’t matter if you only have a few friends, as long as they are true friends. It’s the absolute truth. Some of them I’ve known for 20 years… some only for the last few… and a few are new friends, brought into my life via my blog and theirs. I am grateful for every one of them.

So tell me, what invaluable lessons did you learn this week?

Invaluable Lessons

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I'm Heather, a married mama of two teen girls, a stillborn baby girl (7/1/12), and a sweet and wild preschool girl (4/2/14). I've been blogging at The Destiny Manifest since 2001. I like to write about appreciating all of the beautiful little things that surround us, particularly in the face of grief, infant loss and mental health issues. Every day is an adventure!

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  • I’m so glad you decided to link up this week, Heather!

    This is a really great list.  Life tends to teach us the most in our most trying moments, and it sounds like this is no exception.

    I know that this move, along with other things, is very stressful for all of you, but I also think that there are great things for you down that road, and you seem so much happier in general in spite of the stress.

    The girls getting their own spaces will definitely let up some of your stress, I’m sure.  It’s hard to have everyone cramped up together!

    And your last one?  I love that. 🙂

  • Thank you for hosting the link-up, Crystal! I enjoyed writing this post more than I thought I would… and I was already looking forward to it. As I’m sure you have seen in some of my posts before we decided to move, I can be quite negative when  my depression takes over. I am making a real effort to stay positive, and this list helped me to see those good things that are happening in my life.
    @PhasesofMe:disqus 
    You are a great friend Crystal, and I am grateful to have met you. 🙂

  • Considerer

    I learned that I am beginning to find peace. And that there’s no time like the weekend for a blog-hop of thankfulness 🙂

    • I am glad to hear that you’re beginning to find peace. I waver on that one… sometimes I feel peaceful and others time, not so much, but I’m always striving for it.

      • Considerer

        It’s been really, really hard. In the end I decided that I needed to let go of the dream of having my own children, because if I ever get the chance to adopt I don’t want to see them as a ‘second best’ or to resent them and think of them as ‘not really mine’, so in order to parent any child in future, I’ve had to give up on the idea of having a biological child.

        I waver too, but it’s an improvement on where I’ve been the past few months.

        • You’re very brave and I admire that in you. I’m still not able to let go of the dream of having one more child, and I know all the reasons not to pursue that anymore.

          Any step forward is an improvement. I know how hard-won peace can be. {{{hugs}}}