Remembering Our Baby This Christmas

It has been two days since I last posted, and I have to say, it was a welcome break from the frantic posting schedule of November’s NaBloPoMo. I am still fighting the remnants of bronchitis and hoping to see the last of it very soon.

It is obvious to us that we’re going to have a rough few weeks coming up… it’s already hard. We should be celebrating our five month old baby’s milestones — sitting up, rolling over from back to tummy, grinning and teething — and instead we’re wandering around like sad, lost zombies, trying to find meaning in the gloom.

David, Lakin, Addah and I have been talking a lot about how to honor our little Clara during this Christmas season. We don’t want to let our grief completely surround us, so that we miss out on opportunities to celebrate how special our baby girl is to us.

The girls have had wonderful ideas — and our favorite is Random Kindness for Clara, which will we introduce tomorrow on the blog. We’ve been making a list and plan to implement as many of these as possible this holiday season.

We invite you to participate in Random Kindness for Clara, in honor of those touched by miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss. Check back tomorrow for more information!

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I'm Heather, a married mama of two teen girls, a stillborn baby girl (7/1/12), and a sweet and wild preschool girl (4/2/14). I've been blogging at The Destiny Manifest since 2001. I like to write about appreciating all of the beautiful little things that surround us, particularly in the face of grief, infant loss and mental health issues. Every day is an adventure!

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  • Ddraig coch

    This maybe an idea for you Heather. The lady on this FB page lost her son about 2 years ago. She decided to make memory boxes and delivers them to hospitals free for mums like us.
    People can purchase them anyway adapted for what they want and the money goes into providing the free ones. I bought my friend one the day after her daughter was stillborn and she treasures it. I paid for it but when she found that it was for a mom of a stillborn child she refunded me, even though I was happy to pay.
    Take a look and see if this is like what you were thinking x

  • JanineHuldie

    Heather, I can only imagine how you are feeling and won’t even try to put myself in your shoes, but will say what a positive way to honor your baby girl. And I look forward to participating in this and will be on the look out!!

  • Amber Hurlbut

    I’m excited to see what is in store for you. I think you will be able to bring God so much glory through all of this darkness.

  • Cari Lorine

    Oh, Heather, I can’t imagine how hard you and your family have had it this year. I think Random Kindness for Clara is a great idea! I’ll check back tomorrow for the details.

  • Thank you Janine!

  • Thank you! That’s a beautiful idea. I am working on something similar… not on such a large scale, but more of a contribution to what my local loss support group already does. Thank you for sharing this link though, I love seeing what others are doing.

  • Thank you Cari!

  • Thanks Amber! I’m looking forward to this project. I’m hoping we can bring comfort and hope to others, even through our sadness.

  • Cyndi

    As someone who has suffered miscarriage, I feel your pain. I hope that the holidays are kind to you and that you’ll feel more “found” than “lost”. Hugs to you.

  • Thank you so much Cyndi!

  • Kelly

    Heather, I think this is a brilliant idea for finding comfort and peace at a difficult time.

  • Ddraig coch

    No worries. Tracey didn’t start off that large but the internet and donations meant more people got on board and the charity got larger. I wish you every bit of luck with what you decide to do hun x

  • I’d love to think that one day I can reach as many people as Tracey does!

  • Thank you Kelly. The girls are very excited about doing this… and I think it will help direct our grief in a positive direction.

  • Stephanie Sprenger

    What a great idea. You are in my thoughts frequently. I look forward to seeing what you post the next few days.

  • Emily

    Looking forward to hearing more about how you plan to honor Clara…I can tell already that this is going to be a wonderful idea that will also help all of you continue to heal.

  • Thank you Emily! I’m excited about it!

  • Thank you so much Stephanie!