Love from Friends on Clara’s First Birthday #loveforclara

This past Monday, July 1, would have been our youngest daughter Clara’s first birthday. She was stillborn at 42 weeks 3 days gestation, and we found out she had died when we went to the hospital to give birth to her.

It has been a difficult year for my husband and I, and we have been dreading this day. A day that should have been filled with happy birthday songs for my smiling baby girl was instead destined to be a terrible string of memories and wishes of what can never be.

Clara's First Birthday - Love from Friends #loveforclara

The day started out very hard, with David and I reliving every second of what was happening at this exact time last year. Things began to get better after I got online to find dozens of Facebook notifications and email messages. I am lucky to have a wonderful group of supportive friends who remembered us and organized “Clara Day”, in memory of our sweet girl.

Clara's First Birthday - Love from Friends #loveforclara

Balloons were released, candles lit, trees and flowers planted, memories made… all in honor of Clara Edith Webb. It makes my heart sing to feel so much love from friends I’ve never met face to face. I read so many caring messages and saved so many pictures, and every one of them lifted my spirits and made me feel so much better. I called David over to share them with him, and we cried together — sad tears for the loss of our baby, but happy tears for the love and light that we could feel from our friends.

Clara's First Birthday - Love from Friends #loveforclara

Thank you to each one of you who read Clara’s story and remembered her by sending in her name or celebrating with us on Monday. I wish (so much) that she were here to celebrate her first birthday with us, but that cannot be, and I am honored that she is being remembered so wonderfully.

Clara's First Birthday - Love from Friends #loveforclara

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I'm Heather, a married mama of two teen girls, a stillborn baby girl (7/1/12), and a sweet and wild preschool girl (4/2/14). I've been blogging at The Destiny Manifest since 2001. I like to write about appreciating all of the beautiful little things that surround us, particularly in the face of grief, infant loss and mental health issues. Every day is an adventure!

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  • splendidlittlestars

    so sorry for your painful loss.
    I see that there’s a wonderful blessing of love, kindness, and friendship buried in the heart of your pain.
    May Clara’s memory live on in the hearts of those who reach out to comfort others.

  • Seriously, I know it cannot replace her, but again know that we all are thinking of you right now and I am sending you hugs!! Beautiful pictures and really sounds like her little life was celebrated gracefully and in such a lovely way, too!!

  • This is beautiful ~ the pictures and your words. How wonderful of your friends to celebrate Clara Day. What a treasure to have such support. I have been following your posts about Clara and I am thinking of you during this difficult time. {hugs} Thanks for being so brave to share all of this with us. These pictures are beautiful.

  • TaMara

    So sorry for your loss. How wonderful that you have such loving friends and family to wrap you in love and support during this difficult time.

  • Eve

    Oh, what a heartwrenching day it must have been. I’m so, SO grateful that you have the support of a wonderful husband and incredible friends.

  • Considerer

    Outpourings of love and support from friends, family (and random internet bods) do help so much with these tough, dark days. I’m glad that you kept breathing, kept taking each minute at a time, and got through it. She’ll always be loved and remembered, and this sounds like a perfect year-on celebration of her.

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  • Jackie Karlic

    Hi! Followed you over from Ducks ‘N A Row blog hop. I am so very sorry for your loss. I have a 19 month old daughter and a baby due in Dec and I couldn’t imagine going thru that. My heart goes out to you and your family. Now following your blog on Bloglovin’

  • Kasey Attianese

    My heart goes out to you. So glad your support system was able to wrap their arms around you and lift you up some when you surely needed it the most.

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  • noelle @jumpinbeans

    the love from friends always seems to help. so glad you have such a great group… hugs to you…

    http://jumpin-beans.blogspot.com/2013/07/is-it-football-season-yet-ww.html

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