Living My Life & Finding The Words

I click over to the back end of my blog at least once a week, sometimes more. I know it doesn’t look like it… the blog looks deserted and a little bit dusty. I’m still here, dear reader, living my life, trying to find peace and happiness in all the little things around me, and I have a deep down urge to tell you all about the good and the bad.

I just can’t seem to find the words anymore.

There are too many stories that are not mine to tell anymore, even though I am going through them too. If the blog were a bit more anonymous, then I would probably feel more able to share, but that ship sailed many years ago.

My blog has evolved a dozen or more times over the 15 years that I have been here, and most of those evolutions have involved a long period of quiet while I sorted out whatever was going on in my life. I like to think this is just one of those times, and I will be back.

I just have to figure out how to come back… what I have to offer.

I don’t want to alienate those who found me through the baby loss communities when I share stories and pictures of our rainbow baby, though that may be inevitable. I treasure each of you with whom I share a mutual loss. I am still one of you, but the wound is not as fresh as it once was, and that is partly due to the passage of time, and partly due to those whom I met when I was writing my way through my grief on this blog.

I have met many readers who identified with my struggles with my oldest daughter’s mental health issues. I am still there, and I am sorry to say that, if anything, those struggles are more intense than ever before, but I am not comfortable voicing those things to the internet at large anymore. My daughter is almost 15, so as much as I would sometimes like to be selfish and tell you all about how I feel about her issues… I won’t. She deserves her privacy.

While I’m still sorting out what I have to say, and how to go about saying it, I do continue to post pictures on Instagram, which is linked in the side bar to the right. Please do come by and say hi there!

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I'm Heather, a married mama of two teen girls, a stillborn baby girl (7/1/12), and a sweet and wild preschool girl (4/2/14). I've been blogging at The Destiny Manifest since 2001. I like to write about appreciating all of the beautiful little things that surround us, particularly in the face of grief, infant loss and mental health issues. Every day is an adventure!

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  • Michelle Ward

    First I would like to thank you for your transparency and openness. I am so sorry for your loss and I cannot wrap my mind around your strength and those who have posted if not for the Lord Jesus Christ. I thank you for your heart that desires to share your journey of the birth of Clara so that noone will have to feel alienated in their grief.
    I found your blog post as I was trying to figure out what could have happened to friends of our baby girl who was asleep at birth November 19, 2016 at 42+ weeks. I’m sure that there isn’t any hard fast ettiquite as to what to do or say / or not, but having never experienced this kind of sobering loss I don’t know what to do or say and when. I was hoping that perhaps you would not mind sharing in what ways did people reach out that you felt was a blessing. So that i have somewhere to start.
    Thank you again… Continued prayers and blessings as you walk this journey to learning a new normal. May God cover you and your family is His perfect peace.